Don't Block Your Blessings

http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/07/15/rr.dont.be.eeyore.relationship/index.html

My friend had sent me this article and I find it completely relatable. I pulled out a couple of quotes from the article!

"Why do women, when relationships start getting good, tend to look at them with such a negative outlook?"

I realized that I am one of those kind of women. It's true...I definitely tend to do that. I guess I get scared when things get good or when something good comes along. I have this mentality where I think...daym, could it be too good to be true? I'm a hopeless romantic, or at least I'd like to think I am. If so, shouldn't I fantasize about a fairy tale ending? Why then do I build this negative outlook? Because, I doubt the male species! Every time I put my guard down, I get hurt. I know that the end result is always some kind of disappointment. Am I being ridiculous? Do I expect too much? I ask myself those questions all the time. I think its good to set standards and expectations for ourselves, but I sometimes wonder; am I just going way to overboard, or are the guys that I've been with just not the one for me. I'm a realistic hopeless romantic. As much as I do fantasize about some guy sweeping me off my feet, I do know how to snap myself back to reality!

Maybe I don't have a negative outlook, maybe it's just that I expect the worse. I don't want to expect too much and I don't want to believe that anything good can last long, therefore I put up some kind of defense mechanism so that in the end I don't end up hurt!

Does that make any sense at all? I tell you I have a complex way of thinking.

"My mother used to always say, 'Don't block your blessings.' I always took this to mean that I needed to be open to blessings in order to receive them. So, that's what I've done and it's actually worked for me."

I like that! DON'T BLOCK YOUR BLESSINGS! I should really learn to do that. Don't block the good that is coming your way. Embrace it, love it and accept it.

I'm going to take that piece of advice today and tell others not to block their blessings =]

When one door closes, another one opens

Timing could not be any better! or worse? I don't know what exactly to think of it yet.

I just think it's funny how things work out sometimes. I know I've mentioned "single-hood" before. Yes I was single, but then I wasn't. Yea, I'm complicated and at times confusing. So just an update, I am single again!

I noticed that I've only written out all my break ups and bad times, but fail to mention some of my good/ happy moments. Maybe you can conclude that if I'm not blogging about how upset I feel about something, that I may possibly be happy about something else. HAHA!

I'm complicated sometimes.

This time, I am finally for sure...SINGLE AGAIN!! Good Bye 2009....and the first half of 2010. Wow, a year and half.

With every relationship, you learn something! I've had a lot of time to reflect and I think it's best for the both of us to not be together.

I'm OVER it! Just realize that when one door closes, another one opens=]

When it's broken, just throw it away!

There's no point trying to fix something that's broken, so throw it away and buy a new one. "Like broken glass, there's no point in trying to fix it because you might hurt yourself even more by trying to fix it." This quote is usually used as an anology with relationships. It's true, I agree. There's no point in trying to fix something that has already broken because the harder you try to make something work, the more pain you'll get out of it.

It was a hard lesson learned. But sometimes, I make the same mistake. Hopefully, next relationship, I will learn.

This year for Christmas, I just wish to be happy with my family and friends. I know it will be great! I can feel it already =]

Two People

"It shouldn't be so difficult for two people to be together." I don't beleive that! I feel like every relationship has its ups and downs because what's a relationship if two people have not gone through thick and thin. I don't believe that a relationship can be completely healthy with no arguements and no fights. My friend you are trying to take the easy way out. I honestly do not feel that it's easy for any couple to be in a relationship! Problems always occur, it just depends on how they deal with it, TOGETHER!

"I don't care what other people say, I'll still be with you." I think that is a real true love if they really feel that way. Saying it doesn't mean anything, but its through actions where you show a person how you really care about them. I know this guy who's a 33 year old American born Burmese. He's a great example of not caring what other people think. He went to Vietnam a few years back and met a local girl there. He did not speak a word of vietnamese, but he fell for this local girl there who is at least 10 years younger than him. Through the past few years he's been communicating with her through skype, telephone and makes his bi/tri annual visits to Vietnam. Recently, he had registered a 3 month visa for her. All his friends did not understand why out of all the girls in San Francisco/ United States, he ended choosing one from out of the country who could barely communicate with him, his family or his friends. He didn't care!!! He loved her and that's all that mattered! He didn't care about people judging him, he just wanted to show her off to the world. Now that to me is a real true love. I envy that! And I wish for me to someday have someone love me the same way, through thick and through thin. I want someone who will stay by my side no matter how bad the storm is.

SEX TALK

Last week, during lunch when there were three of us girls in the office, Dr. Wong asked us for our advice for something. I was curious to know what she needed advice on. Turned out that she wanted to know how and when she should approach her eldest daughter about the "SEX TALK"! My other two coworkers and I gave our opinions and talked about our own experiences with how our parents approached us with "sex". We agreed with each other for the most part, but I realized that we all had different experiences. I think ethnicity has a lot to do with how a parent might approach their children with the topic of sex. I am a first generation Chinese born American who have very traditional and conservative parents. We don't talk much about feelings, sex and emotions, it's awkward. But I do remember my dad mentioning that he did not want me to get an abortion, thus meaning don't disappoint us... which implied no sex/ no unsafe sex. It was one of the most awkward car rides ever. I've learned to hate one on one car rides with my dad because that's when there's no escape and you have to listen to what he has to say. Dr. Wong was concerned because her eldest daughter just entered high school and she didn't want her daughter to have sex with the wrong guy! "How did your parents give you the 'All guys want is one thing' speech," she asked. I thought that was so funny, because as you grow older you learn that in fact that's what all guys want. They're nice to you and buy you things because they want to get you in bed, eventually.

I love working with Dr. Wong and I love how she always asks us girls for opinions and girl talk. She is seriously just TOOO CUTE!! She's one of the nicest and most genuine people I know! Not only that she is seriously a super mom, super surgeon, super doctor! Definitely a role model figure!

Something to think about: Were you given a sex talk from your parents? If so, how was that like and how old were you?